Inter-gamer dating like every game we play on our X-Box 360, Wii or our PS3 systems. There is a winner and a loser. Dating between gamers is no exception. And more often than not, it is us guys who take the proverbial “L”. For obvious reasons, every male gamer’s dream is to date a female gamer; who wouldn’t want to be able to share such an important part of their life with their significant other? You love games, I love games, lets love each other too! Sounds like a match made in heaven right? So why is it that male gamers and female gamers rarely hook up?

I think a huge wall exists between men and women steeped in “Nerd Culture”. There are a lot of reasons why it exists and there are a lot of arguments that can be made concerning this, but I think the majorly significant factor contributing to the lack of inter-gamer dating is a general and very basic lack of understanding. This lack of understanding can be attributed to both guys and girls, but for different reasons. Developing a significant level of understanding of and with one another will definitely go a long way toward breaking that wall down.

So I will be a gentleman and start with the ladies first, who says chivalry is dead? Female gamers generally lack an understanding on two very closely related counts, note that there are exceptions to every rule; this is just a broad generalization of what I see on a regular basis. First they rarely consider the difficulties that male gamers and nerds have on the dating scene. Secondly, you ladies don’t realize just how important a solution you are to what they feel is their only or major dating problem.

Let’s expound upon the first point, shall we? A lot of female gamers express to me their displeasure with their male counterparts. Hopefully I can provide some clarity as to why some of us are the way we are. Since grammar school, gaming, comic books, anime and any other “Nerd Culture” related vice is like a proverbial Kryptonite to women. The average hardcore gamer or nerd spends most of his life unpopular and repelling women like the plague. This is because mainstream society considers the things that we love so much to be for lack of a better word, nerdy. So, suffice to say that a guy gets zero cool points in the average girl’s book for unlocking all the X-Box Live Achievements on Oblivion. It becomes largely difficult to overcome this obstacle and most male gamers never do. So even though they love the culture, it comes at a heavy price. Delving deeply into it can cost you 99.9% of your dating options.

Now, on to the second point. Female gamers are like the last ray of hope in an hour of darkness, an oasis to a man lost in a desert for a week; no, you all are more accurately like the Master Sword in a fight against Ganondorf to male gamers. The fact that you are into games and or “Nerd Culture” just as much as he is, eliminates the major shortcoming he has had on the dating scene his whole life. So forgive him if his approach is creepily persistent outright weird; at that moment you are the last woman on Earth to him, or a drink of water to a man dying of thirst. Appreciate that and try to be more sensitive to their situation, regardless to how creepily the guy is behaving. Don’t be afraid to be the bad guy, if you’re not interested in a guy, just let him know. Don’t string him along when you have absolutely no interest in him. Be firm but sweet, I know that’s a slippery slope but women are smart, you can figure it out.

Male gamers have two general points where they lack understanding as well. Now guys, I am sorry if you guys take offense to this, but I have to keep it real. I am writing this article in order to help and promote dating between gamers, not to put anyone down or make anyone feel bad.

Being a male gamer who happens to also be popular with the ladies, I see the mistakes that we make and I will tell you this, we have some work to do if we are going make ourselves more desirable to our feminine counterparts. First, us male gamers have to realize that being a nerd or gamer is probably not your only hang up. After attending hundreds of comic anime and gaming conventions, I can tell you off top that hygiene or lack thereof, is a major contributing factor to the reason why you can’t get a date. Sometimes those convention rooms smell like death glazed over. I don’t know if we get too wrapped up in the goings on or what, but a lot of male gamers don’t properly groom themselves before during or after events and guess what guys, the girls notice that.

We have to keep in mind that even though they are gamers, they are still women. If you want them to think of you in a positive light, you must positively stimulate their senses. It’s not a good thing to have a woman think of you every time she smells a garbage dump…doesn’t help your chances. In short, keep yourself groomed well, smelling good and such. It couldn’t hurt your chances to wear cologne…really guys. I’m not saying you need to wear designer threads, but your clothes should be clean and presentable.

We also have to keep in mind that being overly aggressive, creepily persistent and such can possibly scare the crap out of the girl you want. Not only can it scare them, it could possibly turn them off in the case that they were interested, irritate them or outright make them angry. I know that you like her and you are excited about the prospect of getting with a pretty girl. I know you’re even more excited that the girl is interested in the same things that you are, but you have got to learn to play it cool. Be patient and don’t half-way stalk the woman because you want her number, approach her and put it to her straight. The worst thing she can do is say no, so give it a shot and if she isn’t interested move on to someone else or find something else to do.

You have to look at things from the woman’s perspective. Would you like someone who you don’t know following you around a convention? I know I’m asking a lot from the guys, but you have to stop all of this shy business and go for what you want, chicks dig confidence; so instead of following her around trying to sum up some courage or thinking of what to say, just DO IT. DO IT NAO! Stop thinking and start doing, you will find that a woman is far more receptive to your approach if she hasn’t noticed you tailing her for the last two hours.

I know I was a bit rough on the guys but it’s for your own good. Until next time!